Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Negative Cycle, Part II

In my last blog, I focused on the behavior and perception aspects of the negative cycle, as described in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). This post will focus emotions and needs. My goal is that this provides some useful information or a jumping off point for exploring your own cycles. For many couples, working with a therapist is incredibly useful in the process of flushing out negative cycles and undergoing the changing necessary to develop a cycle that promotes closeness and connection. I also highly recommend the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson.

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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: The Negative Cycle

This month on the blog, I am going to share core concepts related to the form of couples therapy that I utilize in sessions- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). You can see a previous blog for an overview of the model.

The concept of a negative cycle is central to EFT. The negative cycle is the pattern of the interaction that has developed between partners- the cycle includes behaviors, perceptions, emotions, and needs for each partner. I am going to focus on behaviors and perceptions in this blog, and will focus on emotions and needs in the next blog. Each of these cycle components interact and create a feedback loop.

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Couples Therapy

With Valentine's Day approaching, I decided that this week might be a good week to focus on my work as a couples therapist. As you may have seen on other pages of my website, I work with both individuals and couples; and when I work with couples, I work within the context of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). So, what is EFT, and why did I choose to practice within this model?

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