Today’s blog is a continuation from last week’s on The Four Horsemen, styles of communication identified by The Gottman Institute that can predict the end of a relationship. Last blog, I covered criticism and contempt, so will wrap up today with defensiveness and stonewalling.Read More
On today’s blog, I’m going to be sharing some information related to Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I have previously focused on Emotionally-Focused Therapy in blogs related to couples therapy, as this is the approach that I have training in. The Gottman Method is another approach to couples therapy that is based in research, and I have started taking training courses in it. I love learning and exploring different way to conceptualize relationships so that I can support clients in the best way possible.Read More
Conversations can sometimes go off of the rails simply because of a misunderstanding. One of the biggest misunderstands that I encounter is that the people engaged in the conversations are not on the same page in terms of what needs an individual is looking to be met through the conversation. Here is a simple example:Read More
We’re going to go back to basics this month, and I’m going to cover a couple aspects of communication. These will be sweet and to the point, and hopefully a good reminder of basic skills that can support relationships.
I believe that validation is one of the most important skills to support any type of relationship. So often, we just need to be sure that another person understands where we are coming from.Read More
In my last blog, I focused on the behavior and perception aspects of the negative cycle, as described in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). This post will focus emotions and needs. My goal is that this provides some useful information or a jumping off point for exploring your own cycles. For many couples, working with a therapist is incredibly useful in the process of flushing out negative cycles and undergoing the changing necessary to develop a cycle that promotes closeness and connection. I also highly recommend the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson.Read More